El Cajon sits in a bowl with hills on every side, and the burial grounds are all on the other side of them. That single geographic fact shapes sympathy orders here more than anything else. The service — a funeral Mass, a memorial at one of the big East County congregations, a graveside gathering — usually happens inside the valley, within a few minutes of Main Street, Broadway, Fletcher Parkway or Jamacha Road. The interment does not. Families drive west down I-8 or south on SR-125 to reach Holy Cross on Hilltop Drive, Greenwood on Imperial Avenue or Mount Hope on Market Street in San Diego; south to Glen Abbey on Bonita Road in Bonita; northwest to El Camino Memorial Park on Carroll Canyon Road; or, for the very large number of East County veterans and their spouses, up to Miramar National Cemetery on Nobel Drive. Fort Rosecrans on Point Loma, the older national ground above the harbour, is largely closed to new casket burials, which is why most current committal services for San Diego County veterans happen at Miramar instead. Twenty-five to forty minutes separate the church from the ground. When you order, name the one address where the flowers should actually stand, and the hour people will be looking at them.
The city's religious map is unlike anywhere else in California, and it changes what a sympathy order looks like. El Cajon is home to one of the largest Chaldean and Assyrian Iraqi-American communities in the United States — the seat of the Chaldean Catholic Eparchy of St. Peter the Apostle, which covers the western United States, is St. Peter Chaldean Catholic Cathedral here in the city, and the Arabic-language markets, bakeries and restaurants along Main Street and Broadway grew up around that community. A funeral liturgy at the cathedral can draw hundreds of people, which means two things practically: arrangements need to stand upright in a side aisle or on a table near the entrance rather than sprawl at floor level, and the delivery has to be finished well before the hour, because the parking and the foot traffic around the building close in fast. If you want the card written in Arabic, type the words into the message field yourself and the shop will copy exactly what you type rather than translating. Beyond the cathedral, the churches with room for several hundred people sit on the edges of town — the large campus on Greenfield Drive on the north side, Skyline Church out on Campo Road toward Rancho San Diego — and each runs its own parking and door arrangements, so ask the family what time the doors open rather than working back from the service hour. For a home rather than a church, the condolence call is the most common El Cajon delivery of all: a house in Fletcher Hills, Bostonia, Granite Hills, Blossom Valley or Rancho San Diego with family arriving for a week.